When Strengths Become Weaknesses - Learning Where And When To Lean In Or Out

When Strengths Become Weaknesses - Learning Where And When To Lean In Or Out

In Positive Psychology, there is a lot of talk about Leaning into your Strengths.

There is a lot of Value in this as well.

As a Society, we are generally taught to Focus on our Weaknesses and attempt to get them to a more "Desirable" Level.

In many ways this Societal Norm is actually Extremely Sick and Toxic, such as we see in Health and Fitness, and in other ways simply doesn't work well, as we see with Skills.

On the other hand, we see that people who Lean into their Strengths tend to be Significantly Better than Peers, and in the long term their Weaknesses aren't Relevant to their Success.

(PS - This is "Not" True when it comes to "Character" Weaknesses, and if you have these you "Must" Improve them for Success)

Plus, it is often "Significantly" Easier to get into Flow States, where we Feel our Best and Perform our Best, when we use our Strengths.

In general, we want to use our Strengths.

However, there is another Aspect to this to consider.

Sometimes, our Strengths can become Problematic in Certain Situations.

When we try to use our Strengths in those Situations, we discover that they are a Weakness.

For instance, I am an Entrepreneur and Semi-Professional Athlete.

Some of my Strengths are that I can Push Forward through Difficulties, Don't Accept Limitations as Given, and Strive for Improvement.

But these can Easily become Weaknesses.

It can be Great to Push Forward, but sometimes Patience is what a Situation Needs.

There are times when Limitations should be Accepted, at least for a Period of Time.

Improvement is Great, but there are times when we must ask ourselves at what Cost?

As with all things in Life, there are times and places for everything.

It isn't that our Strengths are "Wrong" Necessarily, but we must Learn when they are Needed, and when other Strengths (sometimes from Other People) are Needed.

As a Leader, your Success will necessitate you discovering when to push with your Strengths, and when those Strengths are Not the Best Solution.

This will require you to find Allies to assist you.

Another thing that often happens with our Strengths is that we become "Blinded" by them.

We learn to Lean into them, but what we Focus on is what we Find More Of.

This can then become a Situation where we "Look" for how Our Strengths can "Solve" Problems.

Even if a Strength "Can" Solve a Problem doesn't necessarily mean it is the "Best" Tool to Utilize.

You could think of your Strength like a Hammer.

We begin to see How we can use a Hammer to Solve Everything.

Yes, Hammers are Amazing for Putting Nails into Boards, Removing Nails, or Breaking Things Down.

However, a Hammer can become Problematic when we start trying to use it to Fix Windows.

"Technically" there is probably a way to accomplish it, but you're far more likely to Break Many More Windows in the Process.

This doesn't mean that Hammers are Not Useful, because they "Are" Useful.

But sometimes, another tool would work significantly better.

So, your Allies will help you determine when you're Trying to Fix Windows with Hammers.

These Allies may be outside support, such as a Coach or Mentor.

I have had Many of these over the years, and they have Dramatically Improved my Life.

Other times these Allies will be within your Organization.

They could be Subordinates who you Trust and they may become the best Individuals to take over your position someday.

Or it could be a Leadership Team of Individuals who all have different Strengths and hold each other Accountable for using those Strengths Positively.

The Key is to Figure out How your Strengths can Become Weaknesses, and ensure you do not stray into that territory.

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